“What you DON’T want to do in Life” Matters!

I happened to end up here thinking a lot over my confusions about my own future,What to do next in Life?( lets call it WTDNIL) I have had this discussion with myself many times before. But today as I was thinking a good thought just lighted up!Its not an ultimate solution to my problem, but do help in some ways! Trying to share the same here:-)

When it comes to looking for a job,There are different kinds of people in this world,My classification for the time being:

1.People who have a clear idea about what they want to do in life (Like few of my friends in Engineering college who waited for Core company Jobs after graduation/Or who went abroad for doing Masters…I use to wonder how do they have this clear idea!Some think for themselves and some are forced to act out their well wisher’s clear plan..Anyway in both these cases they are escaped from “WTDNIL” problem

2.People who like to do anything or something that comes their way!( Not much affected by WTDNIL problem, as they accept more)

3.People who are interested in many areas but confused! (Or people who are simply confused!!-makes more sense).


2nd category,That’s where I stood after my Engineering graduation, I didn’t wait too much or tried hard to get in to a company where I could apply the signal processing or Antenna theories instead I jumped into an IT company when it came my way.  Now once you get into role you can either stay there for a long or withdraw if you feel like its no more your cup of tea. I joined the IT firm,enjoyed working there, had lot of friends and all the happiness of the first job and ‘being away from home’. But 2 years down the line working for 9 hrs staring at the system seems less excited for me. I planned to move and joined for MBA! And now the 3rd category of the list is in scene.This is where I am right now, I’m in the last semester of my MBA course.So after few months I will be stuck with the “WTDNIL” problem again. This time the story is different, I am interested in multiple things and don’t know in which area I need to focus for a job. To the core I am a peoples person, HRM is my love! But at the same time Market Research excites me a lot and so does Marketing, the real fun of business lies there. And after the business analytics class, i am forced to think much about it, Its the future of business and I want to dig in! Apart from these CSR has always been my thing and I want to be sustainability leader someday. In between I also feel that I want to get into public administration although its very difficult!

The problem is I am not good  at any of these and I don’t know which one to focus!I still don’t know what exactly I want to do in my life!! But one thing that I figured out to tackle this situation is knowing exactly “What I don’t want to do in my life”.

Now that seems to be an easier task. I tried to fix those things that I don’t want to do .That’s a better feeling! Few things in my list goes like this:-Not to work abroad-Not to do monotonous job-Not to stick to the office work alone-Not to save more money-Not to be a consumerist etc. That doesn’t exactly solves the problem, but takes out few confusions! I don’t have to give attention to ‘work abroad’ jobs. I don’t have to get in to a post  just because it offers high salary!

I think Understanding  what we  DONT WANT TO DO in our life is as equally important as knowing what to do in life! It helps to shield our thoughts, make us more focused about what we really want to do!

The WTDNIL problem affect us while choosing a  carrier path,in some stages of relationships, business,social life  and many other areas! And the idea of understanding  “What you don’t want to do in life” really helps in solving the WTDNL problems to an extend in many cases!

Concluding with a beautiful thing that my friend told.” I have no idea about whom I have to marry, when I want to get married or whether I have to get married or not. But I am pretty much sure that I DON’T WANT TO get married until I fulfill few of my “TO DO LIST” in life”.And I think the last part mattered most for her!

“Knowing what you really DON’T WANT TO DO” is a blessing! So next time when you sit down to think “What I want to do now”  and end up with an agitating mind ,think about “What  I DON’T want to do now”. Might help and do wonders!


Thank you:-)




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